Wednesday, February 9, 2011


The total history of almost anyone would shock almost everyone. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

Interesting thought huh? I ran across this will doing some neurotic tendencies research for my novel. 

It rings very true. Very seldom do we have people in our lives who know everything there is to know about us. For one reason or another there are certain things we don't share with the mass population. Some things are meant to be private or kept between a few people. I suppose to that knowing the entirety of ones life could prove very boring too, at least for the most part. Besides a life it is almost impossible to know a situation front and back unless you can be in both parties heads at one point or another. 

I, for instance, used to get very caught up on people who lie and manipulate other people unfairly. I'm not sure why exactly, its not like I've never done such things but it just irritated me to no end. I thought that there was no need for it, but maybe that was not entirely true. I couldn't possibly  know the entire truth or untruth that was being told unless I was that person.  I couldn't possibly know what was truly going on in these situations that drove me crazy and its unfair to think so.If my high horse had a catch phrase is would be "hi ho hypocrite." I still think there are  more appropriate options to lying and manipulating, but thats not something one outsider can change. Especially when a big chunk of these people were decades older and I believed "they should know better". Then again I held my age group at the same standard and I rarely found someone outside my peer group who prided themselves in honesty. 

My husband is the only person who knows close to all of my history. I say close to all because it is nearly impossible to know the overall picture of ones life unless you are followed around by a video camera at all times. I  do tell him everything. I love my friends but I wouldn't want to know everything about them. Why? Because then I might as well be married to them too. Some things are private, somethings are shared and somethings are unspoken. Thats the way it should be. 

I know the entirety of my life would shock people. It is my life however, which means I dont have to shock people unless I truly want to. 

I will throw out one shocking fact... Next month I will have been married for four years. In November this year I will have been with my husband for a decade and I am only 23. 

1 comment:

  1. Oh, Jenn, reading your blog makes me feel like I missed out on a month or something! I miss you! Some crazy stuff going on! (Especially about Dana). But I wanted to say, everything was incredibly interesting and I wish I could respond to it individually, because there's a lot that can be said, and a nice stimulating dialog would be nice.
    Unfortunately, I cannot, I don't have the time. But I wanted to let you know, that I read everything (I really enjoyed the Sim song lol) and I really do want to know what's going on in my friend's life, and in her head ;)